Friday, September 28, 2012

I Thought it was Gas


After talking to a friend this morning, who has a friend whose mother passed away from thyroid cancer, it occurred to me that if I had not gone to the emergency room earlier this month, I wouldn't know I have cancer.  It would still be growing and possibly spreading like it belonged there.

I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety, so anytime I go to the doctor, many of my symptoms are passed off as psychosomatic.  September 4, 2012 was no different.  I had chest pains, bad chest pains and a lot of pressure behind my sternum.  Of course I Googled, but that can be scarier than just going to the doctor.  So I called my family doctor and spoke with the nurse.  She recommended that I go to the ER, but wanted to consult with the doc. She came back on the line and said the doc just wanted me to to come into urgent care because it was most likely my anxiety.  Of course.

I showered and hopped in the car to head to the urgent care.  But something in my gut told me to go straight to the ER.  I felt kind of stupid because it was probably just anxiety and a little gas.  (seriously, I didn't tell anyone because I thought I had to burp.) But it hurt!  When I get to the ER, they stick me straight in a trauma room for chest pain.  I heard people come and go all day on the other side of my curtains.  I was given everything they pass out for heart attack symptoms and they began running a full gamut of tests centered around my "cardiac health".  After nine hours in the ER, it was decided that I would stay because my heart rate wouldn't stay up and the pain was still there.  

During the course of my 3 day stay at Hotel Mercy Hospital, when they couldn't find anything wrong with my heart but the pain and weird heart rates and blood pressures persisted, they ran more tests.  THANK GOD they did.  THANK GOD I listened to my body.  

1780, One thousand seven hundred eighty, people are estimated to die from thyroid cancer this year.  That doesn't seem like much when compared to other cancers.  And my chance of survival is astronomical compared to other cancers.

But when my kids compare their mom to that number, it's freaky because they only have one mom, my husband only has one wife, and my mom only has one kid.  I have things left to do, so I'm not going anywhere anytime soon...but things would be different if I'd listened to my first call to my doctor.

And when you receive paperwork in the mail that actually has the words "Diagnosis: Thyroid Cancer" hand written under your name...you start to wish that you'd get paper cuts on your eye balls, because it feel much better in that moment.

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

All I Wanted Was a Sweet Neck Scar!

As most of you know, I had surgery last week to remove the left lobe of my thyroid.  I got the call today that I never wanted to answer and I'm making a blog about what I never thought I would.  But I feel like I need to purge this from my insides so that I can move on.

Cancer.  Like real cancer.  In me.  Gross.  Just effin gross.

I don't recall very many details of the phone call from the surgeon, but I knew as soon as I heard HIS voice and not a nurse's it was bad news.  I told him I didn't want to talk to him.  He told me..."something, something, something, 3 cancerous tumors in the piece we've taken out, something, something, the rest MUST come out in the next few weeks, something, something, good prognosis, something, call Rhonda to schedule your next surgery and we'll go from there."

No seriously, that's all I remember.  You can ask the same questions 50 more times, but I really don't know anything else.  And frankly, I'm pissed off and tired of crying about it.  So this will have to serve as the details until I learn more.

My next surgery is Wednesday, October 3rd.

But for now, please, please, please pray for my husband and my kids.  Not for me, for them.  I just want them to be okay through all of this, no matter what the outcome is going to be.

<3

Sunday, September 2, 2012

You.

It used to cripple me when you didn't show up for things that were important to me.  Now I just laugh, because I saw it coming.  My success is happening despite your lack of presence.

I used to blame myself;  If I was different, if I did more to fit in, if I was better at sucking up, if I was better at being needy...but now I realize that's not my responsibility.  I don't owe you any of those things.  Your role in my life dictates the complete opposite.  YOU'RE the failure at life, not me.

I enjoy being me.  I accept me.  I will continue to grow.  And if that never has anything to do with you, I'm okay with that.

Are you?